Heart wounds are caused, not by bad experiences, but by what we came to believe as a result of those experiences. In effect, we come to believeĀ lies about ourselvesĀ (āI am bad, defective, worthless, powerless,ā etc.),Ā lies about othersĀ (āThey will fail meā, āI have to live up to their expectations or they will reject meā, āThey are against meā, etc.), andĀ lies about GodĀ (āHe will fail meā, āHe doesnāt really care about meā,Ā ). These lies are normally invisible to us, hidden deep in our hearts, but pressure or stressful situations bring them right out. We see the results of these lies when we are angry, defensive, unloving, envious, controlling, resentful, jealous, hiding our hearts from others, or finding substances or experiences that allow us to escape temporarily from our pain (addictions) ā all of the thoughts, attitudes, and actions that we know do not please the Lord.